Advice for broken-hearted people is never easy to find or hear.
Going on with life after a break up, especially a bad one, can be so difficult.
But is there a way to make your heart stop hurting? Simply put, the answer is yes.
Your broken heart will mend in time, though it may take weeks, months or even years before it stops hurting.
The sad part of getting over a relationship is that most of it has to do with patience.
It also takes learning to trust yourself again.
I don't care if the break up went very well for both you.
This is the hard part.
Your heart is broken.
You need to take some action for yourself.
So what do you do? Your first step is to initiate a plan for yourself.
Either go Low-Contact (LC) or No Contact (NC) with your ex.
This is important, because you need to reestablish where you end and they begin.
Even when things in the breakup do go well, nerves and emotions can be pretty raw.
You're going to take some time for yourself and just settle back in to your life.
You're going to focus on your own mind and well being for a short time, without worrying about anything your ex may be doing.
This is how you learn to be strong all on your own.
Take some time off for yourself.
You just need to be alone with you to focus on your life, goals, and the future.
The bad part of being in a relationship, even a loving one, is that we tend to use them as a crutch for our own identity, so when they end, we forget what we are.
Love stinks, doesn't it? The best advice for broken hearted people you'll ever hear is just to focus on you for a while.
You also need to let off some steam.
Those deep, sticky feelings way down will really mess with you later on.
You might need to cry, to exercise, or some other form of letting go to keep yourself going.
Be creative, I'm sure you'll find something.
Draw, paint, write, rap, whatever it takes, just let go.
When you start dealing with deep down feelings, you'll start to see how strong you really are.
Now that you've had a chance to calm yourself down, you need to focus on your plan.
Did this relationship make you happy? Are you a better person for having been in it? If you can learn from it, it was certainly a valuable experience, even if it's just a warning for the future.
If it was a good relationship, maybe you need to make a plan to get your ex back.
There are certainly ways of doing so, but the first step is to make sure it's what you really want.
Don't take action without a solid plan, though.
Going off half-cocked will ruin your cause.
This is another step in getting back some of your personal power.
There will be no feeling powerless for you, no sir.
Making strong, healthy decisions will make you feel like a strong, healthy person.
Do the right stuff, even if it hurts.
It probably means you're on the right track.
Give yourself plenty of time to let go of this pain.
Don't indulge in too much pity.
Give yourself 10 minutes per day to pity yourself, but other than that, just clear things away.
You'll always have tomorrows time to be sad.
Focus on healing and growing.
Those are the best ways to feel better.
Once you start deciding to try to feel better, you'll start to feel better.
Hearts heal.
They've done that since man crawled out of his caves, and yours will too.
Be patient.
This is actually going to be a good thing for you.
I know right now it doesn't feel that way, but you're growing right now.
The pain is terrible, but you can use it to do something powerful and constructive with your life.
It's hard to be all alone, especially if you've been in a relationship for a long time.
I promise you things will get better.
Keep holding who you want to be in front of you like a carrot on a stick.
It will help you.
Keep reminding yourself of where you're going, not where you've been, and things will become more clear.
This is the time to truly see who you are.
Become more, don't let anyone or anything take yourself away from you.
The truth is, there are some amazing adventures waiting for you out there.