When there are problems in a relationship, experts always give the advice to communicate with each other and fix the problems together.
So how come now that you have broken up, and want to get your ex back more than anything, are you being told to have no contact at all? This is just it - you are no longer in a relationship with your ex - it's over and you have parted company.
There is a big difference in your situation.
Advice to communicate in a relationship to fix problems is to prevent the relationship from ending.
Your relationship has already ended, so you have to do other things to try to get your ex back into your life again.
Having no contact with your ex is great advice, and nine times out of ten works like a bomb! Why is this? Well, there is so much tension and resentment between you and your ex at this moment that having any contact with each other right now is like signing a death warrant for any chance to get back together again.
It just won't work! Having no contact at all for a while means that you are going to have to be really strong.
There are going to be times when you are absolutely yearning to talk to your ex again, and you are going to have to muster up all your strength and resist these urges completely! It's either this, or losing out on a chance to get your ex back.
Having no contact with your ex IS very difficult, but if you stick to it, then you should be well rewarded for your efforts, because you WILL get an opportunity to try to get your ex back.
So keep telling yourself to exercise patience and determination, and you will accomplish what you set out to do.
To prevent yourself from giving into your urges to make contact with your ex, keep yourself as busy as possible.
Get stuck into that hobby that you once loved, take your dog for long walks along the beach, go out with your friends and family - anything to take your mind off your ex.
Of course, having no contact whatsoever with each other for a while will make you miss each other like crazy, and this is then the perfect opportunity to try to get your ex back.