All women understandably feel terrible when a relationship is over, particularly if the man was the one who initiated the breakup.
Such breakups are the most painful, and can leave the woman in an emotional limbo.
And while common wisdom dictates that everyone does need some time and space to recover from a bad relationship, how you recover from one is even more important.
It's natural and understandable for women recovering from such relationships to ask themselves what went wrong, or what made him change, or if there was anything they could have done to have kept the relationship from ending.
The problem is that most women become so fixated with what went wrong in their relationship that they make the negative thoughts become the forefront when they try to get into their next relationship.
Needless to say, most of these women doom their next relationships from the beginning.
Basically, there are two kinds of mistakes that such women make when heading into a new relationship after getting out of a bad one.
First, there's looking for a man with the exact same qualities of their "ex.
" Women who make this mistake think that if they found someone who had the exact same qualities of the men who left them, then try to avoid making the mistakes that made your ex's leave them.
Suffice to say, this type of setup won't work - it's only a sign that you really haven't gotten over your ex, and you'll unconsciously lead the new relationship to another bitter end.
The second mistake is the opposite of the first, and probably much worse - looking for a man who has none of the qualities of their "ex.
" Women who make this mistake think that if their new man has none of their ex's qualities, then she can avoid the painful circumstances that plagued her previous relationship.
These same women often find themselves wondering what in the world they were thinking getting into a new relationship with someone who had so few of the qualities they liked.
So how do you move on from a bad relationship the right way? Simply by doing the opposite of what most women do - by focusing on the good qualities that your relationship used to have.
While it can be hard to think of the good times you had in a bad relationship (and even harder to actually use these good vibes to move your next relationship forward), learning positive lessons from it and keeping them to heart will make you more open to a better, more fruitful relationship in the future.
Think about it - there used to be a time when you were open to having a man in your life, and better able to foster a happy, nurturing relationship with him.
Your focus should be on getting yourself back into that state, where you'll be in a better position to start again.
If you focus instead on all the negativity, you can bet negativity's all you'll get in your next relationship.