In order to save your marriage and avoid getting a divorce somewhere down the road, you need to take things seriously and both work together.
If one person is unwilling to do this work or only half-hearted in rebuilding the relationship, it will fail.
Once you have decided to come together for the sake of your marriage, you can begin to really get down to what matters, your problems.
No matter how large your problems seem right now, there is a way to overcome them and become closer than ever.
To get closer to each other physically and emotionally, you will need to start talking about how you feel.
Any good marriage counselor will tell you that talking to each other about how you feel and what your expectations are for the relationship is where you must start.
It is while we are speaking to each other in a civil and respectful way that problems get sorted out and new revelations are uncovered by both people involved.
You may also want to start getting creative yourself with different ways to get closer to your partner.
You might want to try taking up a new hobby or traveling more.
While this won't be a magic solution to all of your problems, it often does take care of one of the problems couple experience often, which is boredom.
Losing interest in the relationship can be a serious problem that often does end up in divorce, so to avoid that make each day you spend with your spouse new and exciting in some way.