We all wish to have a perfect relationship where there are no issues or problems but the reality is sometimes we do need real and practical solutions to help get us back on track.
Important ingredients to a relationship are love, trust and respect.
By removing just one of these elements could cripple or breakup a relationship.
If you're going through some rocky relationship issues right now, then one of these 'Rescue Relationship' techniques might be used to help get your relationship back on course.
- Be realistic.
Yes when you first met and started dating your significant other there was an incredible feeling of excitement, passion and even romance.
After some time passes, after the initial excitement, it's normal for the relationship to settle into a stable and consistent pattern.
What tends to happen then is the daily routine can start to seem boring compared to the beginning of the relationship.
What you need to keep in mind the initial rush and infatuation of a relationship is not true love and is not sustainable for any couple.
Over time the hope is a deeper abiding type of love is formed between two people.
Here are some ways to help nurture an abiding type of love that will last over time, the type of love that can help rescue your relationship and even take it to the next level.
- Emphasize the best qualities that make a relationship work.
Honesty, compassion, loyalty, understanding, listening, accepting, forgiving and trusting.
Remember that neither of you are perfect, both of you will make mistakes.
- Communicate.
A successful relationship requires open and honest communication with each other in a caring and positive manner.
Don't wait or postpone on grievances or problems otherwise they tend to get out of hand.
Holding in unresolved concerns usually can lead to more problems and issues like resentment anger and hurt.
If there is uncertainty about something then talk it over.
- Accept imperfections.
No individual is perfect.
Imperfections whether in a partner or relationship doesn't mean that the relationship is doomed to fail.
Use it as an opportunity to learn about each other's weaknesses, as individuals and as a couple, accept them and grow.
Showing your compassion and understanding helps build faith and trust in one another.
- Taking a break from everything can be another best practice of 'rescue relationship' counselors.
When talking about a certain issue or problem evokes too much emotion, the best solution after all might be not to talk about said issue or problem.
This however does not mean that you are backing out of the issue, but actually shows one's respect and love for the other.
Allowing one's mind to be cleared, can allow rationality and practicality to come into the picture.
- Be thankful and appreciate each other all day, every day.
Enjoy living life to its fullest with one another.
Enjoy spending each moment being the best you each can be.
Be available to have a shoulder to cry on if one is feeling down.
If one of you is feeling happy then join in and support them or offer congratulations to them and have fun too.
- Have fun together.
A relationship does not have to be stress filled, hard and boring.
It can and should be a lot of fun.
Remember the reasons why you fell in love in the first place.
Think about the fun you two used to have, try to include those things back into your life and relationship again.
Even though the 'rescue relationship' techniques may not apply to all situations, these tips do work for many couples.
Try to incorporate some of these techniques in your relationship, it just might make a difference.
Once you get your relationship back, continue to follow the steps you've taken.