Ten solid years of marriage usually means you have being living together, sharing a car and even have children together. You know properly how each other ticks and that "Honeymoon" period is definitely over by now. Being married isn't like being in love as such well not in my eyes. I mean to say I'm not in love is not what I mean I'm very much in love but the anniversary part of it is definitely something that can wear a man down. When you have spent ten years together and are coming up to that all important anniversary you have a moment to look back on the last ten years of your life and think to yourself how have I managed to do it?

OK so you and your partner by your tenth anniversary know how each other tick, you know what annoys each other and you know how to make each other happy. You have probably been through the stresses of having children and you know that that eternal bond that you thought you had from the start with little or no effort is now something that takes some work. You need to step back from heated discussions sometimes and have a feeling of why am I doing it. The thing is we all know that we love the person that we married and we know we're not really going to go anywhere, but a lot of us may be thinking it would be easier to. But the thing is its not easier and you know your life would be lonely without the person you married, and you know that you loved them at the time and that you still very much love them now. It's just one of those things these days we all have to go through. Sometimes we think it's easier just to opt out rather than sticking to our vows that most of us have said in front of all your family and friends and even God!

So what I am saying is make sure you take a keen look at yourself when you have these thoughts and really evaluate what's going on at the moment in your relationship and how you can improve it. It's not difficult to make a few life adjustments to make your home life easier. For example if you have children then maybe you just need a bit of time away from them. Call up the Granny or Granddad and get yourselves over to a French hotel or go to the sunny islands of some warm place. Have a good few days off and spend some quality time together and you will realise that your ten years together has actually been an achievement rather than something you have had to "endure".

Visit the place you grew up or the place you first met or if things are really stressful go away alone and spend some time apart sometimes things get on top of us because we just see too much of each other and need that small break to get our stuff together.

So when your reaching something like your ten year anniversary and you start thinking to yourself all these questions of doubt and think why have I put up with her/him for these ten years, think again, marriage is something you have to work at and pretty much anyone you know who tends to look happy in their relationship will no doubt go through the same problems. We all have to be more flexible these days, especially in the forever expanding modern life we are living. With social media ruling our lives and relationships we have to be forever thinking about our friendships and relationships and how to make things work better. Also divorce is alot easier than it used to be and people use this as an excuse. "ah well we can just get a divorce." But it's not that easy and you know you married this person for a reason and would you really be happier with someone else. The thing is you will no doubt go through the same problems with anyone in a relationship because at the end of the day were all human.

So go out there and find her/him a nice gift to celebrate your tenth wedding anniversary and only start having these thoughts if things are seriously out of tune.