First off I want to dispel a myth, a simple search on how to get your ex back shows many articles which suggest that you can get your loved one back within days, where it is true that you can get your ex back, but it's not possible to collar your ex lover in a matter of days.
This does not happen even in movies.
So just make sure you don't set up an unrealistic timescale because all that will do is disappoint you.
You will be better off waiting a little longer than blowing the chance of getting your ex back altogether.
A Hungry Dog Does Not Get Fed What I mean by the above sentence is say for example you saw a hungry dog roaming around on the streets, you felt sorry for it and wanted to do something about it.
However as soon as the dog sees you, it comes running to you like it will eat you, it starts licking you and rubbing against you.
What will you do? You won't like this and will try to push the dog away and won't bother with the dog.
Similarly, even though you are not happy with the breakup, you need to allow yourself and your ex a bit of time to digest what has happened.
The more you demand answers and reasons the worse the situation will become and they will start seeing you as a hungry dog and will want to run away from you.
Don't Give Up On Your Appearance I can fully comprehend that you are heartbroken and you don't really feel like dressing up.
However, this is a very important step in getting your ex back because you never know who you might bump into when you are out and about and if you do happen to meet your ex you want to be looking your best so they instantly react by saying "You look stunning".
Its human nature to be attracted towards beauty, make sure you have lots of it on show! Don't Give Up On Your Body Either It may well be possible that whilst you were in a relationship you had not paid much attention to your body.
So it's always worth joining a gym or a health club whilst you have the time.
By making yourself look attractive again you are telling your ex that you are a hot commodity and if it's not them then it will be someone else which can be very effective in kicking their ego.
Start Looking For Some Fun Now I do understand that you don't want to get involved in a new relationship because you are trying to get your ex lover back.
But a little flirting can work in your favour because at the back of their mind they think that because they have let you go nobody else will want you either, so by doing this you will be proving them wrong.
Stay Positive Stuff About Your Ex If you ever find yourself in a situation where you are amongst mutual friends, try not to say anything bad about your ex.
You're playing a bit of a psychological game here because what you are doing is showing yourself to be a good person at heart that even though your ex left you you still don't say anything bad about them.
These friends will go back to your ex and tell them what you were saying.
They may even fight your corner and ask them as to why did they leave you since you are such a lovely person.
This will really make them feel guilty and force them to rethink.