Your boyfriend or girlfriend has left you, of course your going to feel a whole host of intense negative feelings.
Not knowing what you should be doing to get your ex back is one of the main reasons you feel so helpless.
It is in this initial crucial stage of the relationship split that you definitely don't want to be doing anything that will further jeopardize your chances of getting back together.
For now, sit tight; don't do anything sudden, impulsive or generally destructive towards your hopes for being reunited.
Here in no particular order, are the top 10 mistakes to avoid.
These will almost certainly put the proverbial nail in the coffin.
1.
Getting verbally abusive towards him or her, the first few days will be filled with so many mixed intense emotions, that you'll want to scream and shout but you really really don't want to do that.
2.
Continually phoning them up, grieving and crying to them, telling them everything under the sun, hoping they will have you back.
3.
Threatening them, telling them to get back with you or else, do you really think that's going to help in the long run? 4.
Turning up "coincidentally" everywhere they are, coffee shops, clubs, mutual friends etc.
This will bug them and probably freak them out.
5.
Taking solace in their close friends and relatives, similar in its effects to the above rule, its all about backing off at this point.
6.
Going out and sleeping with anything you find in the gutter, this will help you not one little bit, it will almost certainly finish off what little chance you did have.
7.
Going off the rails spectacularly.
If he or she hears you just got sent down for two months for breaking some poor guys nose in a bar, because he happened to blink, guess what? Not a dogs chance in it for you my friend.
8.
Badgering them that you've changed and its all alright now, don't tell them, show them.
Gain your independence and get on with your life, even if it feels unbearable sometimes.
9.
This one is a biggie, drunk dialing, a bit like rule 2 two but with far less restraint, you really don't want to be reminded third hand of some terrible irreversible statement you made the night before.
10.
Don't be instantly and desperately available, even if they do decide to give it a try, if your on the doorstep before they got off the phone to you.
It will more or less give them the confirmation they have been seeking, that they are better off without you.