Where Does Your Marriage Have a Secret Problem? 6 Hidden Areas to Investigate Does your marriage have a secret problem? If it does have some type of problem, and you can't figure out why, then you have a secret problem.
Marriages that have overcome problems, have learned that those problems probably occurred in one of six basic areas facing relationships.
They discovered those six basic areas where such problems can occur.
They are so basic that sometimes at least one of them is overlooked.
What are those 6 hidden areas? Here they are: 1.
A marriage can have problems because one or both members of the marriage failed to leave behind their mother and father, past relationships, and past "baggage.
" For a marriage to succeed, the couple must leave the past behind and begin to develop their own future.
2.
A marriage can have problems when there is very little commitment to overcome.
The couple pledges to stay together "for better or for worse," but they often break those pledges when things get tough.
This is the single greatest secret to success in marriage.
3.
A marriage can have problems when the couple does not have similar interests.
They need to value the same things-and especially each other.
4.
A marriage can have problems when the couple experiences the loss of intimacy-either physical or spiritual.
5.
A marriage can have problems when the couple fails to try to meet each other's needs.
First we need to identify the important needs that our spouses have.
Then we need to attempt to meet those needs.
Many couples have each partner so wrapped up in their own needs that they miss trying to meet their partner's needs.
6.
A marriage can have problems when the couple quits giving.
When both members of the couple try to out-give each other, they often find great success in their marriage.
Has this discussion raised an issue? If so, it identified a hidden area of marriage that affects your relationship.
Warning: If you just think about this and go your way, things will remain the same.
However, if you are serious about having a great marriage, you will be committed to taking a hard look at your own marriage.
After you take that hard look, you will be willing to change yourself in those areas.
Once you make your own changes, changes in your spouse often follows.
We have looked at six basic areas of marriage that can have aspects that are hidden to the average couple.