Boredom in a marriage is a trap that far too many relationships fall into.
If you've been married for any length of time you've probably slipped into what is sometimes a comfortable routine and at other times is just a mundane repetition of the same thing all the time.
Boredom can become obvious when you feel like your partner stops focusing on you and starts getting obsessed about the money, bills, where the kids have to go, jobs, hobbies, and everything but your relationship.
We all know that these day-to-day chores are part of family life but sometimes we get so caught up in them that we neglect our spouse.
Boredom in marriage starts when you don't devote any time to the relationship and instead get caught up in completing the day to day checklist, such as chores and work.
It's very common that couples (especially couples who have children) become distant from each other and feel frustrated about the loss of emotional and physical intimacy.
You probably remember that when you were first in the relationship you were learning new things about each other and the two of you grew close quite rapidly.
As you shared new experiences the feelings of excitement grew.
Over time, though, excitement starts to fade as we get used to each other, routines become more predictable, and sharing new experiences becomes less and less frequent.
Studies have shown that couples who start to feel bored feel less and less connected to each other and when that happens they become increasingly unhappy with the relationship.
Does this sound like you? So what do you do to fight the creeping boredom in your relationship? Well, researchers say that engaging in exciting new experiences with your partner can lead to feeling closer to them.
When we do something fun with another person we begin to think about that person as fun and enjoyable to be around.
Seems obvious doesn't it? You and your partner need to find new ways to add some excitement to your relationship.
Strengthening your marriage this way will carry you through times that are challenging.
A particular area to focus on when you become bored with your marriage is reviving romance.
Don't wait for your partner to do it first! Practice being affectionate and try surprising your partner, holding hands, kissing, hugging, and just sitting together and talking about your day.
Express your love and affection in action and words.
Take your partner on a date, catch a movie with just the two of you, go out to dinner, and go dancing.
Being stuck in a boring marriage starts to feel like a trap.
But remember that it's a trap that takes two to fall into.
Add some fun and romance to your relationship before you to get to the point where you start to feel hopeless about your marriage.