Divorce hurts, I understand your pain. That pain is compounded when you are still in love. At least, I presume you are still in love since you are considering getting back together with your ex husband [http://www.RelationshipAdviceHelp.com].

The divorce happened for a reason; maybe not a good reason, but a reason nonetheless. You will need to make sure those reasons can be corrected or overcome in order to have much confidence in success, though.

Providing that I have not yet dissuaded you from getting back together with your ex husband, here are 5 tips that can drastically increase your chances of success:

1. Most men hate small talk. Unless you know your ex husband is an exception (and I mean really know) then resist the temptation to beat a topic to death down to the smallest detail. Make sure communication is relevant.


2. Accept your ex husband's apology and move on. When men apologize for something and you feel it is authentic, let it go. Sulking around and milking it for more will not earn you points. In fact, kiss and make up if appropriate. For some men to make an apology it is a really big step, so encourage that behavior with a positive response.


3. Make sure your ex husband knows you want him back. I'm not saying to be ridiculous and over obvious, just that some men can be slow on the uptake with things like this. You might want him to read your mind but he is much more comfortable when you make your wishes known.


4. Don't be expecting a knight in shining armor. Too many young woman marry a man hoping he will rescue them from a desperate or boring situation. Unfortunately, married life has its own ruts and drawbacks. Blaming him for a lack of excitement in your life is more a guarantee of unhappiness than anything else; and I doubt the next guy will be any better for you. Find worthwhile hobbies and interests of your own.


5. Think about the success of getting back together with your ex husband. What can you do this time to prevent a similar outcome as last time? Can you plan more date nights with him where just the two of you are alone? Just make sure not to burden him, if he is the primary breadwinner, with a huge bill to pay for the evening.

The last item is actually good advice for any couple. Children especially can become a priority over the relationship and that takes extra work from both of you to keep the marriage fresh.

Arrange times after the kids are in bed with the phone off the hook, TV and internet shut off so the two of you can enjoy each other.

These 5 tips are a good start, and I hope they help you out. When you get serious about getting back together with your ex husband you will want to know more.

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