Feeling as though your break up was a mistake is common after having your girlfriend break off the relationship. Loving her seemingly consumes your every thought with every beat of your broken heart right now. You can't help but replay the end over and over in a fit of confusion, wondering what happened? Everything was great just a few days ago, but now all you can think about is "how do I get my girlfriend back?"

The more you go over the details of the break up in your mind, the more you convince yourself it was all simply a huge mistake. "This just isn't right... It just doesn't feel right." Or, maybe even, "this can't be happening to me," you tell yourself as you ponder your dilemma. The more you think about it, the more you realize that you absolutely have to do something about it. After all, there's got to be a way of getting your girlfriend back, right?

As you scour your brain in search of an idea how to accomplish such a daunting task, the most obvious one comes to mind. "Why not just call her up and tell her how stupid this all is?" After all, you are certain at this point that the two of you should be together. The two of you are as close to "soul-mates" as two people could ever get, at least in your eyes. "That's it," you think. "Once I talk to her and let her know just how much I really love her, she's bound to give me another chance, right?" But, somehow, there's an almost instinctive feeling floating in the back of your mind that's telling you that this course of action just might not (or even probably will not) work. And, you just might want to listen to it!

That instinctive feeling is your brain, your logic trying to tell you that this seemingly simple idea probably won't work. Your heart, on the other hand, assures you that this admission of undying love for your girlfriend is the ticket. It's a real winner. Go for it!

Not so fast. If your have any chance of getting your girlfriend back, I assure you, calling her up to tell her how much you love her and that you believe the break up was just a huge mistake is not it. However, as you continue to contemplate your dilemma, asking yourself "how do I get my girlfriend back," keep these 3 simple steps in mind:

1 - The first thing you need to do is to accept the break up for what it is. You already know that the break up has taken place, but have you truly, fully accepted it for what it is? You need to first accept that the relationship as you knew it is, in fact, over. Try to wrap your mind around that very idea for now. This isn't a simple argument that you can apologize for and have everything fall right back into utter bliss again quickly and easily.

2 - The next step in getting your girlfriend back is to take that idea of calling her up to tell her about your undying love, write it down on a piece of paper, and throw it out of the window. Better yet, burn it! No, you don't have to do this literally, but the important thing here is that you realize that contacting her for any reason, especially to plead for a second chance, is completely out of the question right now. You're much better off not contacting her, period!

3 - The third step is to take time for yourself. Use this time to heal from the hurt of the break up. This is highly important because getting your girlfriend back is going to require that you attract her back. You can't "talk" her into it. You can't beg her for another chance. You need to attract her just as you did when the relationship first started.

Now, think about this concept for a minute when trying to figure out "how do I get my girlfriend back." How did you attract her in the beginning? Did you walk right up to her and say "I love you... you're my soul-mate?" Did you attract her by begging her to go out with you? Probably not. Instead, you attracted her by being yourself. Relearn how to be the cool and confident guy that you were back when you were single, when you weren't currently suffering the emotional shock of just having your heart broken. And this, my friend, is why you need to both accept the break up and take time to get over the hurt of it in the first place.