In the height of emotions and what sometimes feels like "emotional breakdown," you wonder if you will make it, if you can make it. The pain is so overwhelming. The bewilderment of how you got into this situation and the why's of why you are being treated so badly make absolutely no sense. You know it just can't keep going on like this or it truly will be the end of you. At first you used to think this thought, but you've now moved into knowing something has to give or ‘it will be the end of you.'

You know deep down you're not such a bad person. You look around yourself and see what you've done with your life. You look at all the people that love you the way you want to be loved and appreciate you the way you want to be appreciated. Except, for some crazy reason, all the good and good people around you isn't what you want. What you want is the narcissistic emotional abuser to love you and appreciate you like the other people in your life.

The person with whom you are so in love, the person who you want so badly to love you like you love them, just doesn't. Just doesn't come through, just doesn't show you, just doesn't become, just doesn't. And you, who knows that you are the only one that can change things, doesn't. You are stuck in the middle of doesn't. The narcissistic emotional abuser doesn't and you ‘doesn't.'

If you are aware of the "Law of Attraction," are you able to see and understand you are surrounded by and continuing to make decisions that consist of negative energy? What positive can come out of the narcissistic emotional abuser's or your continuing to remain in something that produces negativity? Your thinking your demise is going to be the end result of your remaining in this "imaginary" relationship is completely negative. There is nothing positive in the thought or the imaginings.

Perhaps one of the reasons why you stay in this negative situation is you are so very aware of how much emotional pain you are now experiencing. The thought of leaving what you now have with the narcissistic emotional abuser would mean causing intentional pain and you're already hurting so badly you don't really know how much more you can handle. But…you know without a doubt give it a few more hours or days, you know it won't be a week, the love of your life is going to give you some more of what you are unsure you can handle. You know it.

You are stuck, not moving, but stuck in the focus of your hope. Let's re-evaluate the focus of your hope. Your hope is focused on that you can keep what you have and someday things will change and you will eventually be free of emotional pain.

A question to ask yourself at this point would be, "Can I make it to someday?" A better question to ask would be, "Can I take the risk of trying to make it to someday?"

If you are in the frame of mind thinking your remaining in the present "imaginary" relationship with the narcissistic emotional abuser in your life will result in the ‘end of you,' is it a positive or negative choice to risk trying to make it to someday? Are you able to identify positive from negative? Try to remain in your cognitions instead of your emotions. Think about, not feel the question, "Can I risk trying to make it to someday?"

One change can eliminate the risk. Changing the focus of your hope can eliminate your risk. Your hope up to this point has been that by keeping the narcissistic emotional abuser and their changing and stopping to hurt you that this will result in the stopping of your emotional pain. What about changing the focus of your hope to that of by letting go of the narcissistic emotional abuser that things will change and you will be emotionally pain free. This change in focus creates the chance for positive energy and positive experiences to come into your life.

You are presently engulfed in emotional pain knowing your choice in continuing to stay with the narcissistic emotional abuser will ‘be the end of you.' You are at the point of taking a risk. Why not take the ‘risk to survive?' You can survive. You will survive.