What makes a man want to get married? This is the question that many women wish they had an answer to. It’s beyond frustrating to fall in love with a man, anticipate a life together only to realize that he just isn’t interested in taking that fateful walk down the aisle to become husband and wife. If you’re in love with a man like this, don’t give up on him. Although many people will tell you that a man like this won’t change, he will. Understanding what drives a man to pop the question can help you subtly guide your man towards a happily ever after future with you.

One very important answer to the question of what makes a man want to get married is security. He wants to feel that the woman he chooses to spend his life with will be there for him. Don’t try and persuade a proposal out of him by making him jealous. If he senses, even for a moment, that you may cheat on him, he’ll never commit to you. He doesn’t want to risk having his heart broken.

He wants to feel safe and comfortable within the relationship and the marriage. If you two are often challenging one another or if there’s ongoing conflict, that’s not going to help in your quest to get him to marry you. He wants to feel that coming home each day will be a pleasant, fulfilling and peaceful experience. If you truly want a future with him you need to start working harder at showing him that you two are indeed compatible. This may involve compromise on your part, but considering how much you value him, it’s obviously worth it.

Men also crave to be committed to women who aren’t standing at the ready to steal all their freedom from them. Many men are quick to say that the reason they don’t want to get married is they are fearful of losing their freedom. They still want to be able to hang out with their friends, pursue their own hobbies and have time to themselves. If you show him that you want those very same things for yourself, he’ll feel even closer to you. Encourage him to go out with his friends, while you do the same. Never ask him to change for you. If you embrace him exactly the way he is and let him know that you aren’t going to monopolize his time or his life, a proposal may be in your near future.