Question: Last summer my dear friend made a decision to follow her heart, committing to someone else. She followed her path to a man whom she has not met (an online relationship) and who will never fully commit to her. Now, I want to forgive her and move on with my life and love. What is the key to letting go and moving forward?
~Chuck
Response from Eileen: Dear Chuck,

Thank you so much for your question.

You pose a question that is universal to the human experience. We will all be challenged with someone that we will need to forgive and move on from. This can happen in any kind of relationship, not only those of love, but within our families, in business relationships, and in friendship as well. How can we forgive, let go and move on when we are in a raw emotional place?

I think the hardest part of moving on is that we may never get closure. We may never have someone say, "You are right, it was unfair." It is not easy to let go of needing that; however, if we do not let go it postpones the process of forgiveness and moving on.

Another thing we have to come to terms with is realizing that our world is a place were not everyone is living a conscious life. These people may live their entire lives that way, or they may not, but either way it is not our decision. They are on their own path and their own process that at times may not make any sense to those looking on or seem counterproductive.

However, we have to allow them to come to enlightenment in their own time and on their own terms. We have to come to a place where we can bless them where ever they are at in their journey and move on to our own.

So to help you in this situation, ask yourself if you are ready to move from the place of being right and her being wrong. It is once we move ourselves out of the dysfunction and co-dependence that we begin to forgive them for their mistakes.

The angel who can help you and anyone with this issue is Archangel Zadkiel. Zadkiel tells you Chuck, and anyone else who needs to hear this message, that life events like this are opportunities to see our role in what occurred. It is beneficial and important to take the time for self reflection. Why did I choose this person? What is it in me that I need to look at? What is it in me that put myself in this scenario? What part of me needs self examination, progress and healing? It is a time to look inward but also a time to rediscover oneself and set a new path. "You may stumble and fall a few more times," Zadkiel says, "but with continued reflection afterwards, you will get better at making better choices."

Zadkiel is the Archangel of the Violet Ray of mercy and compassion towards yourself and others, of helping us let go of judgments and resentments, and of personal transformation. He appears to me as a very tall, light haired angel. He is majestic and extremely powerful but also very gentle. He is very understanding of how hard things like this can be for us. His task is to help us get to a better place within ourselves so we can forgive and live better lives. As we grow as spiritual beings this will allow us to teach others by example.

You could say a prayer to him like this:

"Archangel Zadkiel transform my hurt, frustration, anger about _____________ and our interactions/relationship into a higher vibration. Bring me into a better place with it. Even if I don't agree with what they did or how they live their life, bring the Light into me so that I can see this relationship as a being of God's Light. Seeing it with a more gentle and open heart and mind, allowing me to teach others by example."

Remember that your soul chose to do this dance with this person to learn something from it. Take the opportunity to learn what you can about yourself from this.
Walk in Grace and may fulfillment and all good things be on your path,
Eileen Smith - Angel Intuitive

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