Right now your probably thinking that you don't stand a chance in hell and everything is hopeless, stop and gather yourself for the coming weeks. Read 7 tips to help you on your way

You have broken up with your partner and quite frankly it is more painful than pretty much anything. More painful than anything physical, you can't escape it. Everywhere you turn, keeps bringing it all back.

Read and re read these tips, doing things the right way will not only insure you don't mess things up, it will prove a massive boon in raising your chances of getting your ex back.

1. Regardless of how much you are nagging yourself to go round there, phone them up, text message them, email them, tweet them etc etc. Dont! Give this situation some real breathing space. By hounding them, you will almost certainly make things worse.

2. Watch out for the rebound, this very rarely works out well, if you start dating someone else soon after the break up, not only will you be trying to date your ex through another person, you will ruin your chances of getting back together and you will realize you probably won't have much in common with the new person once the smoke clears.

3. Don't get drunk and think that raw begging and emotion will win the day, you'll freak them out and they will see you in a light that will possibly put them off you for good.

4. Don't start criticising them to your and their friends and family, for the time being, regardless of how much your hurting, keep your mouth shut on such matters. This sort of behaviour can only do harm

5. Don't put yourself through the wringer, if you know where they are likely to be at such and such a time, avoid that place. You will end up driving your self mad, wishing it was all back to normal, all the while staring at them through the frosted glass of the favourite coffee shop you both used to go to.

6. Stay active, just because that part of your life has temporarily stopped, don't let it affect the rest of your life. Get out and see friends, go to your regular spots, clubs, bars, gym etc. Allowing your self to hit a slump can have bad consequences.