Chart topping songs like "Thinkin' Bout You" by Frank Ocean show how some songs help you evolve through self-expression.
While typically categorized an infatuation song, this song and others may be easily dismissed as non-positive.
Can songs in the category really be labeled positive, make us feel positively or both? "Thinkin' Bout You" is the song that debuted the coming-out of popular songwriter and performer Frank Ocean, who has associations with other music groups and who originally created the song for another artist.
Feeling the material was so ingrained within his soul that he must use it himself, Ocean opted to retrieve the song for his own use and sing the ballad himself.
What resulted was one incredibly soul-stirring and unique hit which quickly launched onto the MTV Video Awards stage.
There, he performed it for the world to see.
Taking an intimate piece of his own life's experience and sharing it with the world demanded an introspective performance.
And so it was with a head down, hardly looking at the audience, singing expressively before a set of fiery red flames and billowing smoke, that Ocean revealed the lyrics about a first love.
Those lyrics point to being self-protective (not completely opening to the truth of how strong the attachment had become).
Ocean's lyrics point to continual thinking and preoccupation with this individual and the experience.
We know this as obsession.
And we are left to wonder if Ocean could eventually surpass the feelings of strong attachment by being honest about the impact this person had in opening his world.
Accepting that it was still natural to remember them from time to time might allow him (and others in this situation) to move on: to embrace the gifts of self-actualization and honesty that this person provoked him to express.
"So Into You" by Tamia is another song which describes being immersed in thoughts of and feelings for someone.
Unlike Ocean's song, "So Into You," discusses the things that feel good.
It leaves no unanswered questions about the honesty of the singer.
And it keeps the message simple and empowering by not professing lyrics which point to never being able to live without the object of affection.
Altogether, the material is light and can be embraced by those who are looking for something in that realm: an up-tempo song with clean lyrics and a nice message.
While "So Into You" doesn't address a common problem with the opposite (positive) message, it can actually be labeled a positive song if you are going by this definition; a positive song affirms a positive message.
Without the inclusion of negativity, by simply focusing on the good feelings, "So Into You" fits.
While "Thinkin' Bout You" does not fit this definition it, too, can have a positive function for people, depending on how they embrace the song as they listen.
Some people may feel a cathartic relief.
If they start to feel a downturn of emotion (or become aware that they are stuck in a pattern which is encouraged by the song), that is a different effect taking place.
At that point, the option to focus on more uplifting music for the topics discussed may be the appropriate decision.
Although songs of infatuation do not always signify a positive situation, there are some positive songs which describe non-negative stages of infatuation.