Is there a right time to introduce your date to your friends?
Master matchmaker, Paul A. Falzone, CEO of the world's largest bricks and mortar dating service The Right One and Together Dating explains, "Absolutely. A first date is not a good time to introduce him/her to your friends because you hardly know your date. When you introduce someone you are dating to your friends, what you're really saying is I like this person and I want you to like him/her too. At least wait until you've had several dates and you know the feeling is mutual."
Falzone reminds singles that although it is not set in stone when you should introduce your date to your friends, it can be helpful to have your friends meet your date relatively early on. Why? Because your trusted, good friends are impartial and will have the ability to pick up on something about your date that may, or may not, be positive which you may have overlooked. It's also helpful to see how your date responds to your friends.
"For example, you may be so enamored with your date that you may not notice how rudely he is treating the hostess and wait staff at the restaurant, but your friends would surely pick up on it. As your friends would point out to you, it's only a matter of time before he begins to treat you in the same manner," explained Falzone.
Navigating the date to friend introduction? Falzone advises singles that there are several things to consider:
*Wait until you've had at least two dates before introducing him/her to your friends. That will give you both a chance to get to know each other a little better.
*Keep the meeting casual. Meet for coffee or drinks; dine out somewhere informal; hit the local hotspots; head out to a concert; host a barbecue; go bowling or play pool - whatever you decide to do, keep it casual and try to do something that everyone will enjoy.
*Make the extra effort to put everyone at ease. Avoid intense or confrontational conversation. If the conversation turns less than amiable or your friends really begin to delve into your date's personal life and past relationships, steer the conversation back to neutral territory and if necessary, politely part ways.
Falzone continued, "When you like someone, it's only natural to want your friends to get to know that special person. Yes, your friends may 'interrogate' your date a little bit, but bear in mind that they are only looking out for your best interest. Wait until you've dated a couple times before you introduce them and do so in a fun, casual way."
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