Do you like a guy who seems to like you back but he is not asking you out? Knowing the reasons for his actions can help you determine if you want to continue pursuing him.

He likes you but he is not attracted to you in "that way"! Ouch! A difficult reality to digest but sometimes a guy can like you as a friend and nothing more. A guy who considers you as a nice person may like to get to know you as a friend but he is not interested to date you! If you think that he is a nice person, do not miss out on the opportunity to get to know him as a friend! You'll be surprised if he turns out to be a really good friend or perhaps this friendship can lead to something more in the near future; some relationships begin with friendship! However, do not pursue a friendship with him with the hope that he will develop deeper romantic feelings for you as this can lead to disappointment if he continues seeing you as a friend. Take things slowly and enjoy getting to know him as a friend.

He is insecure and lacks self-confidence. Do not be surprised if a guy who likes you does not ask you out because he is intimidated by you! A guy who is insecure about his looks, financial situation or any other personal insecurity may hesitate to date a woman who is beautiful, financially secure and portrays self-confidence. You may be attracted to a guy and you may see a deeper quality in him regardless of his job status or other visible imperfections; but a guy who is shy and lacks self-confidence will only look at a woman he likes from afar but he will not attempt to date her! You may even try making the first move and ask him out but he will try to make excuses to avoid going out with you because he is convinced that you will eventually realize that you would be better off with someone else; he would want to prevent getting "dumped" and rejected! Also, he will not go out with you because he is afraid that his friends may see him with you and make a remark such as "What is a woman like that doing with a guy like you; what does she see in you!" Even if his friends do not make such a remark, his own lack of self-confidence may convince him that he is not worthy of you! There is nothing you can say or do to make him think or feel otherwise. Do not try changing yourself in the attempt of making him want to go out with you; you are only being dishonest with him and yourself! Just be yourself; if a guy wants to go out with you, he should accept you for who you are!

He is not ready for a relationship! Guys who like women and enjoy getting to know women are not ready to date any one woman in particular. They want to have the freedom of meeting women without the burden of being questioned about their whereabouts and other questions that can be asked by the girl he is dating. Some men believe that dating a girl has certain expectations; if the girl he is dating is not open to the idea of him dating several women at the same time, they feel "restricted" from their quest to meet other women!

He wants to focus on building his career. A guy who has not established himself in his career can avoid dating women for awhile. Dating requires time, energy and effort; a guy who wants to focus on building his career would prefer getting to know women as friends without the pressure of thinking of dating or relationships. Women who are looking for a relationship may become frustrated if they realize that the guy has no intention of dating her; this reaction from women does not bother men who are focusing on their career and other unresolved personal matters! Career and financial security are men's first priority; do not expect them to change their focus on dating or relationships!

He enjoys his independence and freedom. If a guy has been in a bad relationship with a girl who had robbed him of his independence and freedom, he will think twice before dating anyone. A guy who has had a stressful or painful relationship with a girl would want to enjoy being "unattached" and he would not want to be "trapped" again in another relationship so soon. He may still enjoy getting to know women on a casual basis but he may not be ready to date anyone or enter into another relationship for a while.

Conclusion

If you like a guy who is not asking you out, ask yourself if you would not mind getting to know him as a friend. If you are looking for a relationship, then, do not place too much hope and expect him to want to date you or you could end up waiting forever! Most men would feel uncomfortable when they are confronted with the question of why he does not want to go out with you! So, do not become disheartened if a guy you like has not asked you out! There are a lot of "fishes in the pond"; it is up to you to go "fishing"!