Want to learn how to pick up women at a bar? The first thing you have to learn is to ditch the pick up lines.
They don't work! Women's pickup shields are usually way up at bars and clubs, because they are approached by men more often at those place than anywhere else.
To top it off, all quality women go to bars and clubs with at least one friend, but usually with larger groups.
However, it is not as hard as it sounds, if you use the right techniques.
Make Her Comfortable With You The key here is to open your target, and strike up a conversation.
You should be able to "open" is you simply bring something genuinely interesting to the table.
Make her comfortable by smiling and using kino.
Kino is basically using touch to get to know someone better.
Lots of guys fail at this point, but any man that does well with women knows how to use Kino to his advantage.
Exude Confidence How can someone exude confidence? There are actually many ways to do this (i.
e.
being alpha, being cocky & funny, social leeching, etc...
); but for the purpose of how to pick up women at a bar, we are going to go over the easiest way to exude confidence in a bar or club setting - Being Cocky & Funny.
Being cocky and funny basically comes down to finding the right balance between being funny and being arrogant.
Doing this the right way will drastically improve your chances of picking a woman up at a bar setting.
Women do not like arrogant men; but when you say arrogant things in a joking or funny way, you can do amazing things! Get Some Group Game As I mentioned earlier, any quality woman will most likely be accompanied to the bar or club with at least one other friend, so you need to have some group game.
As daunting as it may sound to approach a woman in a group of her friends, it will actually make your job easier if you know what you are doing.
It is important to open the leader of your target's group first, unless your target is the leader (in which case you would approach anyone else in her group first, and let your target approach you).
The key is to engage your target last in this situation.
Don't ignore her if she introduces herself to you; however, continue to engage every other member of her group.
Why is it important to do it this way? When you approach a woman this way, you do three things: you do not project your intent early on (which is very important); you don't come off as "too interested" (which is attractive to very pretty women who are accustomed to attention); and most importantly, you force your target to accept you.
That's right! It is called social proof.
If you gain the approval of your target's group first, she will be forced to accept you as well.
That's it - that's how to pick up women at a bar, or at least what has worked for me.
The most important thing you can do is take some action.
Get out and meet people.
You've gotta start somewhere.