- 1). Evaluate your friendship's recent past. If you said something cruel during a heated disagreement that crossed a line, or repeatedly said or did hurtful things during the friendship, your friend may not want to forgive you for a long time, if ever. If there was a severe breach of trust, such as deceit involving a romantic partner, the friendship is probably over. If you feel you were in the wrong, apologize sincerely, but do not beg and plead to recover your friend's trust as this may push him further away.
- 2). Assess your friend's behavior toward you. If your pal has a history of returning phone calls several days or even weeks late, but still returns them, he may be busy or he may not consider himself to be your close friend. If your buddy, who has always consistently returned your calls or texts and also initiated contact with you, has suddenly stopped, this may be a sign that the friendship is over. Do not necessarily assume you did something wrong; he may simply feel that you have grown apart.
- 3). Ask your pal clearly and directly if the friendship is over. If you suspect he is brushing you off or avoiding you, you might need to hear that you are no longer friends in order to obtain closure. Pay attention to the excuses your friend gives if he does not seem comfortable answering the question directly. If he is repeatedly "too busy," you may need to accept that he has grown apart from you. Understand that you deserve friends who will make time for you in their lives.
- 4). Pay attention to your instincts. No matter what excuses your friend may offer, you will eventually realize in your heart whether your friendship is truly over. Once you understand the truth, accept that the friendship has ended and move on. Continue to socialize, meet new people and cultivate new friendships.
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