Sometimes love is not a bed of roses.
This 'will he, won't he thing' leaves you with shorn flowers, no answers, tears, frustrations and more.
Love is a bumpy ride.
Does this seem all too familiar? Do you have frequent run in with guys not your type; guys who are commitment phobic, who walk all over you and always keep you on the guess-if-I-love-you button? Perhaps its time for an analysis...
What is it that makes you decidedly game for self-destruction? Is it a need for affection that glazes your mind and turns you to the first guy who shows a hint of interest? Are you out to prove a thing to an ex? Are you masochistic? Think...
For those who often come out scarred, this is a kind of guide to pull you out the next time you set foot in Loveland.
Whose is the right guy? Basically any guy whose motto in life is: "She comes first"; also someone who doesn't give so much as a sidelong glance at your more well endowed friend or someone who puts up with your premenstrual tantrums and walks out...
only to return with 'Sleepless in Seattle' and a carton of ice-cream.
Ok, these are frivolous signs.
There's got to be more.
What are the Real signs that he is into you? · Usually the first tell tale signs come when he'll make queries about your tastes, where you like to visit, for food, on vacations...
basically deciphering hints on how to impress you.
· He's head over heels when he goes public about his affections.
Like holding your hand, getting you into the vortex of his friends' circle, involving you into the important areas of his life.
· Any guy who sees you as an individual and backs it up with supportive action in your endeavors needs to be taken.
· Does he value your opinion? Even in so-called guy-stuff like cars/finances/gadgets? The chauvinistic mindset usually does not end here but spills over.
Keep away.
· Does he stay put with you, even in an emotional sense when it comes to your problems? Is he kind to you then? Does he listen in? Does he offer you mature perspectives? More of yes's to this quiz? Keep him.
· No one should be able to dent your ego.
Nurturing someone who does so is suicidal.
There are pleasant ways of putting a point across.
Any man not doing so hints at a lack of respect and love for you.
· He'll like to talk...
about his family, his childhood, etc.
Basically he will lay himself bare.
Pick up from these basic signs and then move in.
In case things go wrong, here's what can help.
· Get it out.
Sing, cry, shout...
do whatever that makes you feel you'll survive.
·Cop this saying by Oscar Wilde, "When a love comes to an end, weaklings cry, efficient ones instantly find another one and wise ones already have one in reserve.
" Decide which category you belong to.
Not the first one for sure.
So get your life rocking! How, we'll tell you...
· Get back into the party circuit.
Wear your sexiest dress, do up your face and hair like never before, and get swinging.
Tear streaked faces never get love back; all they get is sympathy.
You don't want any of that, do you? So snag those stares, perfect the body talk, match eyes with that Lochinvar at the bar, ace your techniques and you'll feel better.
· This is where your girlie pals come in.
Friend's make you laugh; they'll also help in carrying out a burial of your love life.
Bond over tearing the man to shards, call him names that'll make his ears go red...
give him a dose of malice.
Too radical? All right, then get over your hurt in the quiet dignity of your space.
Develop a hobby, write out your feelings, get onto social networking sites, make newer friends and...
don't rush things.
Finally, never allow a man to take away from you what you are - fun, fearless, courageous and gorgeous.
Never be ashamed of your feelings or hurt.
Nurse the hurt, and remember...
nothing lasts forever.