Are you constantly thinking, "I want to get back with my ex and I want someone to take away this pain"? I know that feeling only too well! Nothing can comfort that emptiness and time just seems to drag.
But something can be done...
and those tormenting thoughts, "I want to get back with my ex", that drain the life out of you, can stop.
Do you know why the break up happened? Actuality, most break ups happen for either one of two reasons.
One is that you were not giving one hundred percent into the relationship and the other is that you were smothering your ex and demanding too much from the relationship.
So if there are two problems then there are two solutions.
I am not saying that these are the only two solutions but there is a strong possibility that one of these two things happened to cause your ex to leave you.
Think about your situation for a moment...
Do you think you were the reason or at least had a part to play in this all? Do you think that there is something you could do, that would make things different? Let me use myself as an example.
6 years ago, my boyfriend (who is now my hubby!) broke up with me very suddenly.
I mean it came totally out of the blue.
I thought things were going fine.
But, I was doing things that I liked and wanted.
It was all about me me me.
Looking back I don't blame him for dumping me! I was so hurt because he said I was selfish.
I went into a massive "feel sorry for myself" mode and just crumbled.
But I loved this guy, and I kept thinking to myself that I want to get back with my ex and prove to him that I am really not selfish - and that I was prepared to change.
And that's what I did.
I changed.
I did everything possible to make sure I wasn't being selfish.
It's hard.
It means you are going to have to sacrifice some things that you like doing and do stuff with them that they like doing.
On the other hand, if you are a person who has been too needy and too dependent, then you also need to make changes in those areas and back off.
We all need our space.
If you are thinking day and night " I want to get back with my ex", but are not prepared to make some changes in your own life, then this advice won't help you.
Whatever it is that caused the break up - it is very likely that you had a part to play in it.
You did something or you didn't do enough.
I know, it's tough to listen to me being so straight, but you want to get to the bottom of this as soon as possible don't you? You want to stop thinking "I want to get back with my ex" and move to the next step right?