Some of the stuff in this article will be met with much disapproval.
The question you have to ask yourself is "Why am I reading this in the first place?" I'll share my experience in this area.
We all fear a failed relationship.
Our problem is that we look back at relationships that we have had and focus on the problems and project them onto our new relationships.
The problems in any relationship have nothing to do with you not being good enough.
They have to do with honesty.
You may really like someone who is treating you in a positive way.
Do you feel that you need them in order to feel good about yourself? This could be dangerous, it is a high expectation of someone to put them in a position with that much power over your emotions.
You start to feel like you need this person.
Try focusing on the things that make you happy for you.
If he pops into your head for most of the day, that is OK, as long as you don't make him the source of your happiness.
Put your focus on you.
what do you want out of life? Go for it, try to stay away from the thought of "I need him to be happy".
Most infatuation and obsession stems from the fear of being alone.
Take this time to focus on how wonderful you are.
Take those positive things he has told you and start to believe them for yourself...
So much so, that you really don't need him to say these things because you already know them.
Remember that we all choose our own path in life.
He may choose you, he may not...
Choose your path for you and focus on what you want out of a relationship.
It may be him, it may be someone better suited for you coming along.
Ask yourself these questions: Do I need this person, if yes...
why? What do I want out of life? Am I compromising who I am or compromising who he is? In my relationship, I think about the person I am with...
I think of her all the time but I am not limiting my happiness to being with her.
I love her with no conditions or expectations.
I love every interaction we have but my happiness isn't dependent on it.
I'm happy, she is happy and we share in that.
It's easy to really understand this when you're with someone who is always positive, but what if he says he never wants to speak to you again? Would you still think he's amazing or would he have failed to meet your expectations? Or worse, did he do the very thing you were afraid he would do? Take a close look at every expectation, even the ones that you're afraid of.
Remember expectations and conditions are the curse that bring resentment.
Find your own happiness and share it with someone, but do not expect someone else to make you happy all the time.
They will fail every time and frankly it is not their job...
It's your job to make you happy.