If you are shopping for an engagement ring for the very first time, it doesn't matter if you are the bride or the groom, there are certain things you should know before you make that special choice as to which ring is going to be your very own.

As you wander through the aisles and look at all the wondrous styles and shapes, it can get overwhelming. Relax. You have plenty of time and the salespeople are there to help. See if you can find just one or two rings that are your favorites. These will help the sales clerk know what you like. However, you are not done yet. There are things you should know before you ever invest in an engagement ring.

Do you know if you want a diamond for your engagement ring? There are other gorgeous choices and today's modern woman feels free to spread her wings if she wishes. Even if you want a diamond, do you want one of the many colored diamonds available now? You might be adding some cost to your choice, but you should still at least think about it. Ask the salesclerk about the difference between a white diamond and the black or yellow as to value.

Do you know if you want a white gold, yellow gold or platinum setting? Some say the platinum and white gold reflect the beauty of the gem back to you. If you are the groom, think about the jewelry the bride currently wears. Platinum is considered the most durable, but again, it adds up in the end.

Ask the salesclerk to explain the clarity chart to you. Most diamonds you see do not come with the clarity and color, etc printed on the tiny tag so if you see one you particularly like, you might have to ask. Get her recommendation on the 5 C's that falls within your budget. If it is too much for you, you might start looking at some of the other gems we mentioned. Tell her your budget and she can save you a great deal of time.

Do you know about the different types of ring styles? Antique, vintage, Art Nouveau, Art Deco and Modern are some of them. Ask to see an example of each if she has one. The antique and vintage are most likely reproductions and would be terribly expensive if they were not. You might be drawn to one of these timeless styles after you see them.

If you do end up with a diamond, after asking a lot of questions and seeing enough examples that you feel this is the only ring you want, make sure you know the 5 C's of your stone. Also ask for the Certificate of Authentication if you buy an expensive gem, whether it is a diamond or not.

If you can't get one, it might be better if you shopped at another store that has one for each of their gems. It is the best way to know, after all the shopping and all the questions, that you got what you paid for.