There is not a soul in this world that does not take their spouse for granted.
Although everyone knows the consequences they still do this knowingly and unknowingly.
If you feel that your marriage has hit the rocks then you need to take immediate measures to stem the rot and prevent the divorce from happening.
Here is what you should do.
Listen, listen and listen For a change start by listening to what your spouse has to say.
Give him/her a patient hearing and let your spouse vent out his/her feelings and frustrations.
When there is a safety valve the pressure will never build up to the point where divorce is the only solution.
Increase communications Talking to your spouse is not communication.
Real communication is one where you can tell what your spouse wants or expects without them having to say it in so many words.
When you are aware of your spouses likes, dislikes and other issues that trouble them, you will be able to preempt their bursts of anger.
Stop controlling Marriage is deal between two adults and you have to treat it as such.
Stop controlling your spouse if you want to be happily married.
Lack of space is one of the prime reasons why marriages break.
Once you begin to hear creaking sounds you should immediately address the root causes.
Romance once again Reignite the romance once again and actively woo your spouse.
Treat him/her like your lover and not like your better half.
One way to do this is by designating a particular day of the week for your spouse and taking him/her out alone minus the kids and stuff.
Take your marriage seriously Don't let your profession or your other pursuits take precedence over your marriage.
Marriage is the single most important thing in your life, and your actions should prove this to your spouse.
Give up your ego Once you are married you become a unit; never let this fact escape your consciousness.
Learn to give and take and even if at times you have to give more than you take you should not complain as you are doing it for a loved one.
Show that you value your spouse Respect your spouse's feelings and his/her opinions.
Consult your spouse on all the major decisions that will affect your life.
When you do this your spouse feels like he/she is valued.
These are things that will save your marriage from divorce.
If you are not doing them presently then promise your spouse that you will do this and more to save the marriage.