According to Patrick Carnes, there are 11 sexual addiction behavior types.
This information is important when when working with sexually addictive or codependents or co-addicts of sex addicts.
As you will see, sex addiction comes in many forms and types.
Anything from the lone web surfer who spends 5 hours a night looking at pornography, to the patron of a prostitute, to the exhibitionist (man in the raincoat), the voyeur, and others.
Sexual Addiction Behavioral Types 1.
Fantasy Sex - Sexually charged fantasies, relationships, and situations o "Sex in the head" - arousal depends on sexual possibility o The fantasy is preferred over sex o Fantasies can be all-consuming o Rarely is sex the goal (unless it's necessary to control an outcome) 2.
Seductive Role Sex- Seduction of partners o Being sexual without being truthful about intentions o Arousal is based on conquest o Arousal diminishes after initial contact o Seduction equals power and control o Can results in multiple relationships, affairs and/or serial relationships 3.
Anonymous Sex -- High-risk sex with unknown persons o Arousal involves no seduction or costs and is immediate o Cruising, one-night stands, public baths, peep shows, Craigslist ads, etc.
o No emotional connection 4.
Paying for Sex - Purchasing of sexual services o Arousal is connected to payment of sex o With time, the arousal is connected to money itself o Prostitution, phone sex, sexual massages 5.
Trading for Sex - Selling or bartering sex for power o Arousal is based on gaining control of others by using sex as leverage o Receiving money or drugs for sex * Making explicit movies/videos, stripping, pimping, and/or drugs for sex 6.
Voyeuristic Sex - Visual Arousal o The use of visual stimulation to escape into an obsessive trance o Secretive looking or "peeping" to obtain sexual gratification o Use of pornographic photos, magazines, computer and/or videos to obtain a fix 7.
Exhibitionistic Sex - Attracting attention to the body or sexual parts of the body o Sexual arousal stems from the viewer's reaction, whether it is shock or interest o Exposing oneself to obtain sexual gratification and/or power o Exposing oneself in public places, at home, in a car o Wearing clothes designed to expose and titillate 8.
Intrusive Sex - Boundary violations without discovery o "Stealing sex" without the possibility of getting caught o Sexually touching people in crowds o Surprising unsuspecting individuals with sexual comments, jokes, and/or observations 9.
Pain Exchange - Being humiliated or hurt as a part of the sexual arousal o Aroused by sadistic activities, hurting or degrading another sexually o Or both * Bondage sex or "S & M" (Sadomasochism) 10.
Object Sex - Masturbating with objects o Cross-dressing o Uncontrolled use of masturbatory objects: blow-up dolls, latex vaginas, dildos o Fetishisms 11.
Exploitive Sex -- Exploitation of the vulnerable o Arousal patterns are based on target "types" of vulnerability o Force, intimidation, or manipulation may be used o 30% of male and 14% of female sex addicts have had sex with minors o Pedophiles are not necessarily sex addicts o Sex addicts can be pedophiles