Should I tell people I'm having surgery? Making the choice to have cosmetic surgery is a very personal and serious resolution.
At the same time, it's not uncommon for people to choose to have surgery and share the good news only to be shot down negatively by the people they love most: their family and friends.
Most people discover that not only are their loved ones unhappy about their decision to have surgery, but they'll also go on a campaign in an effort to prevent them from going through with surgery.
True enough, it's your decision and nobody should be able to stop you or make comments and criticism, but the reality is, most people tend to share their opinion whether you ask for it or not.
You may tell your best friend, only to hear her dish about how you never needed to have a cosmetic facelift in the first place.
"You're wrinkles are only prominent in your forehead!" she squeals.
"Outside of that, you'll be wasting money.
" When you open up to members of your family, they may regard you and your decision with great disdain and accuse you of being vain and shallow.
"Looks and beauty fade," they'll argue.
"Learn to live with the beauty you have inside because we love you regardless.
" If you decide to tell people about your surgery, be prepared to handle the unsolicited comments and criticism.
Sometimes, it's wise to test reactions by telling one or two family members or friends in confidence.
Hopefully their responses will give you an idea of how others will react and help you prepare to deal with some of the more negative attitudes.
You may discover that those you love aren't anti-cosmetic surgery, but are simply worried about your health and safety.
After all, they haven't done the research you have that confirms the procedure is relatively safe, so you'll have to reassure them of the careful planning you've done to ensure the best results possible.
On the flip side, openly discussing your plans to have a facelift can also provide others the opportunity to be honest about wanting work done themselves.
They may ask you a lot of questions about the procedure, specifically about how the facelift will be done, the costs and the recovery, wishing you the best of luck in the process.
If they're impressed with your results, they might consider you an expert on the topic and ask for your advice as they look for a facelift surgeon of their own.
Regardless, even if you don't reveal that you're getting surgery, only a blind person would never be able to tell that you had work done, especially if the results are drastic.
If you wait until after you've completed your surgery to reveal the truth, you may risk angering a few people who feel they "should have been told" or consulted, but at least it will be too late for them to stop you from happily going forward with your decision.