What men want is a woman who doesn't prioritize her husband.
This might seem sort of counter-intuitive, but bear with me.
You'll see what I mean after a while.
In our Western society, it's not as important for the woman to follow her man around like a lovesick puppy.
In fact, the opposite is what men usually find desirable in their woman: independence.
That's an example of the woman putting herself first.
Below, I'll talk about a few more examples of the putting the husband second that us guys actually prefer that way.
1.
Woman first, man second As I already said in the opening paragraph, women who place themselves before their man generally appear more desirable to the man.
He has to perpetually work for her attention (even if he doesn't know it) and that will put the woman on a higher pedestal.
This could be something as simple as the woman walking down her career path (woman who are ambitious are attractive), or the woman working out regularly every week (woman who are physical fit and physically attractive).
Although it's important to respect the man's wishes, it's equally as important, if not more important for the woman to respect herself first.
2.
Family first, man second You should tread carefully around this point.
I don't mean to alienate the man from the family.
You always want unity in the family.
What I'm of course referring to is a woman who clearly values her children and family life more than spending time with her husband.
The husband has to work for her time.
That way, when he does get it, he heaps a lot more value onto it, making it more enjoyable for the two of them.
But not only that; I don't know if it's just me, but I find the transformation process from the "girlfriend" mentality to the "wife" mentality fascinating.
To see my wife, day in day out, look after our daughter is inspiring.
It does make me feel more affectionate towards her, as a husband.
3.
Friends first, man second This seems to contrast with the previous point, but if anything, it should reinforce the importance of having a different focus in life to attract the things that you really want.
A man whose wife goes out to have fun with her girlfriends is desirable, because, again, she's hard to get a hold of.
Being with her girlfriends also keeps her fun-loving.
She will attract men and having men there who are into her will create that sense of competition that drives us guys to keep trying harder.
I'm not saying to manipulate your man, I'm just saying that you've got to prioritise yourself occasionally, for the sake of your marriage.