1.
Eliminate an inferiority complex.
(1) Correct understanding of oneself, improve self-evaluation.
The most important reason of the formation of inferiority is that they can not correctly understand and treat themselves, so to eliminate the inferiority complex, they must start to change from recognizing themselves.
It is necessary for one to be good at discovering their own strengths, assuring of their own achievements, not thinking someone else is perfect and fancying himself useless, recognizing that others also have drawbacks.
Only by enhancing self-evaluation, one can improve self-confidence, overcome inferiority complex.
(2) Recognize the advantages and disadvantages of an inferiority complex and improve self-confidence to overcome the inferiority complex.
Some people regard inferiority complex as an incurable disease with no advantages, so they are pessimistic despair, which is an incorrect understanding that is not conducive to the elimination of inferiority complex, but it will increase.
Psychologists believe that people with low self-esteem should not only have a correct understanding of all aspects of their expertise, but also a correct view of his own inferiority complex.
Self-contemptuous are often very modest, and are considerate of others, will not be competing with them for fame and wealth, easy-going, good at thinking, doing things carefully, most people believe them more, and are willing to get along with them.
Pointing out the advantages of the self-contemptuous are not asking them to maintain a sense of inferiority, but making them understand that an inferiority complex also has its positive side, do not despair because of an inferiority complex, and awareness of these benefits can enhance confidence in life,and establish psychological foundation to eliminate the inferiority.
(3) Conduct a positive self-suggestion, self-encouragement, believe that everything depends on human effort.
When faced with a situation without enough self-confidence,just embolden oneself: "I will succeed.
" or may ask themselves: "Everyone is capable, why can not I do? " If with this mentality to be engaged in activities without thinking failure emotions in advance, self-confidence will be generated.
2.
Overcome the barriers of interpersonal communication.
People with avoidant personality often have different levels of human communication barriers so they must operate a plan to make friends.
A relatively low level of the plan are relatively simple, it will become more difficult step by step.
For example: The first week, every day with colleagues (or neighbors, relatives, roommates, etc) chatting for ten minutes.
The second week, 20 minutes each day chatting with others.
The third week, keep the amount of time last week, find a friend for a random talk.
The fourth week, keep the amount of time last week, finding a few friends for a get-together at the weekend, casual chat, a family dinner, or picnic.
Fifth week, keep the amount of time last week, participate actively in all kinds of ideas or academic exchanges or technical exchanges.
Sixth week, keep the amount of time last week, try to affiliate with strangers or less familiar people.
In general, the above steps seem easy, but carefully done is not easy.
It is best to find a supervisor to allow him to assess your performance, and urge to stick to it.
In fact, the sixth week, the task is beyond ordinary people's living habits, but as a treatment, exceeding the conventional life is appropriate.
Steps at the beginning of the task, you may find it very difficult and may feel that there is no taste, you must try to overcome in order to obtain a good therapeutic purpose.