Back in the 60's song writer and recording artist Neil Sedaka had a number one single called "BREAKING UP IS HARD TO DO".
This became a very unique song as it had a Doo Wop and a Ballard version.
The majority of Doo Wop songs could never be converted into Ballard because most of the lyrics were silly with no meaning.
But this Sedaka top ten hit was the exception.
Let's take a look at the final verse and you will see for yourself! "Instead of breaking up I wish that we were making up again - I beg of you, don't say goodbye - Can't we give our love another try? - Come on baby, let's start a new - 'Cause breaking up is hard to do" Can you identify with this verse? Let's face it, the day before a breakup and the day after a breakup feel very different.
One moment life is full of meaning and purpose and in an instant everything changes.
You lose your bearings and nothing makes sense anymore.
A life of a future together projected in your mind becomes replaced with a future full of uncertainty and you fear the unknown.
The natural reaction after a break-up is to chase him like, calling him all the time, frequently showing up at his place of work, and even spying on him.
What you do not realize is this type of behavior is destroying the relationship.
This type of desperation is a total turn off for him.
At this point he needs some space and that is exactly what you need to give him.
Try letting him go (temporarily of course).
Change your focus away from him by concentrating on yourself.
Start to research a new hobby.
Identify some bad habits or personality traits that turned him off in the first place and work on eliminating them.
The message here is this is all about you now and not him.
You need to take responsibility for improving yourself with a brief separation.
This is your time to play hard to get and force him to make the first move.
By making yourself scarce, he will perhaps remember why he loved you in the first place.
By taking ownership for yourself, you will be on your way to healing the broken relationship.