I had been married for about eight years when my wife and I nearly divorced.
I'm happy to say though that I am proof that you can help save your marriage even if you are the only one trying.
That isn't to say when I was facing this divorce that I actually knew what to do.
In fact, I made things worse before they got better.
Here is what happened.
My marriage started out much like any other happy marriage.
We enjoyed each other's company and were very compatible.
Things weren't perfect, but whose marriage is? Steadily though over the years, communication broke down, intimacy was gone and I knew there were problems.
Still, I was completely shocked and unprepared when my wife announced that our marriage was broken beyond repair and that she wanted a divorce.
With no cohesive plan or strategy to deal with this devastating news, I reacted badly and made a lot of mistakes.
I begged her not to divorce me, I argued with her that divorce was not the answer, I tried to make her feel guilty, I told her she'd regret it and on and on and on.
I asked her to go to counseling with me and this seemed like a good idea to me, but not to her.
She insisted that she was done trying and needed to do this.
I eventually discovered that the things I had been doing were not going to save our marriage.
In fact, things got worse after that.
It was only after I discovered a completely new approach that the marriage was turned around; despite the fact that she was not even willing at the beginning! It worked for us, it has worked in absolutely hopeless situations faced by other couples, and it can work for you and your spouse too.