Every day new relationships are born either naturally or artificially. When a mother gives birth to a bouncing baby girl or a bouncing baby boy, a natural relationship is born, and when people become friends, either through mutual consent or through implication, artificial relationships are born. Some of the relationships formed through either ways are bound to last for life, while others are timely and don't live to see the bright light of the following day. For instance, a mother will never cease being a mother, since the relation is natural and have blood links. On the other hand, friends can unexpectedly become enemies, especially when things fall apart, because the relationship is founded on mutual interest, and when the mutual interest ceases to exist, the relationship dies.

When going into a relationship, it is very important to understand that relationships that lack natural binding are not meant to last for an eternity. For the reason, you must always understand how to break up, which can sometimes be hurtful and emotional depending on the circumstances surrounding the process.

Dealing with unexpected pain turn of events in a romantic relationship is never easy. People cry, some get mad, some commit suicide, while others do funny things when they break up with the people they loved so dearly. I am a victim of a painful break up, and I understand the pain of losing the person who meant the whole world to you simply because you could not settle an argument or because you got mad over a telephone conversation. What you need to know is that managing the guilty conscious is very difficult if not impossible after a tearful break up. Regardless of angry you become, make sure that you try as much as possible not to become the reason of the break up with him or her.

When ending a long relationship, make sure that your hands are clean; let him or her carry the blame. By doing so, you will not have deal with the guilty conscious. The idea might sound selfish, but the fact is that no one wants to be guilty and so are you. In my case, we had a public bust out and driven by anger, I slapped her in the face. It was not my intention to go that far, but anger and fury pushed me. We didn't talk for a while, but after some time, I was on a mission to clear my name and conscious. I begged her to forgive me and made sure that she understood that I didn't mean to do it. Lucky enough she forgave me and once again, we were together. However, deep within I knew the relationship was between a rock and a hard place- it could not last long, so I made sure that I got a reason to end the relationship for good, this time making her the reason for the break up. It might not be the best idea, but for me, it worked out, and even though we are not together today, we still talk, share some of our worries, but only as good friends.

The other way of ending a healthy relationship is through seeking dialogue. Many people think that by ending a relationship in bad blood, they become heroes. Never make a mistake of ending a relationship through arguments, exchanging bad words, or hurling insults at each other. The cost of breaking up in such a manner is painful. To be on the safe side, talk things out, and give her or him the reasons why you think a break up is good for both of you. This will give you a chance to seek a reunion after a while, especially when you think that you need him or her the most. It will also give the two of you a chance to turn the romantic relationship into a healthy friendship. In other words, never underestimate the power of a dialogue when ending a relationship, as it is the only way of maintaining future contact with your friend after ending the relationship.

Generally, always make sure that you are not the reason for the breakup, if the relationship must end, try to be a gentleman or a good woman and end it on a positive note. Don't ever turn love into hate and above all, know how to break up in a healthy manner.