One of the things that makes people nervous when they start thinking about getting back together with an ex is the fear of making a mistake.
You may worry about saying or doing the wrong thing; something that will drive you farther apart as opposed to reuniting.
Here are the three things you shouldn't do if you want to avoid the pitfalls that will only make things worse.
Pitfall 1: Calling too often - People need their space, and this is never more true than after a break up.
Besides, maybe they are sitting at home thinking about eventually being together again.
And you want those ideas to grow, not be interrupted by several phone calls in an hour.
If you leave more than two messages that aren't returned, then that's a clear sign you need to give them some more time, for now.
Pitfall 2: Spreading gossip - The break up is between the two of you.
Under no circumstances should you start blabbing to others all the bad stuff that made it happen, nor should you badmouth your ex to anyone.
Not only is it inconsiderate, but what you say is virtually guaranteed to get back to your ex - making any chance of winning back your ex much less likely.
Pitfall 3: Lying - Telling the truth is sometimes difficult.
Lying about mistakes you've made only compounds the problem.
Even if they never find out, you will know deep down that you lied.
Relationships rebuilt on deceit will eventually crumble, and usually in a way that is worse than the first time.
You owe it to your ex, and to your self to be honest.
The other way to look at it is that if you've done something you need to be forgiven for, that can't happen until you honestly confess what you did wrong.