As the famous song goes: "Can we forget about the things I said when I was drunk, I didn't mean to call you that...
" And this line has been said in so many different variations for so many years in the past and for sure, for so many years towards the future.
And the cycle keeps on rolling on errors made and relationships broken.
And as the song implies, we regret the things we do and the words we say and there comes a time when we want to patch things up and say sorry to our loved one.
And the challenge lies on how to say it and show that your truly sorry to your loved one.
First off, backtrack and determine the real cause of your separation.
Getting to know the root cause of why the whole house went into shambles will give you a better understanding why you both acted the way you did and will give a clearer picture of how to avoid it next time.
You see, when you try to win your ex back, you do not only say sorry, you also show your sincerity by not repeating what you did before and the only way to ensure that is to get a better understanding of what was done in the past so as not to repeat it in the future.
That is what real "sorry" means.
Second, timing is of utmost importance.
Try to gauge the emotion of your ex and of all people, you should be the one able to tell.
Should you say sorry immediately when the feeling of love is still strong or will it only aggravate the already strained situation? Or would it be wise to wait and let the anger feeling subside first and then say your piece, but wouldn't silence only strengthen her resolve not to get back with you again? Now these are queries that need answers immediately.
Try a soft approach immediately after the separation and if it does not work, try again after you feel that her feelings are already a bit stable.
Third, once you are given the opportunity to say what you mean to say, admit to your mistakes and do not blame her.
However, point out the things that you can do together to fortify your love for each other and minimize the possibility of a similar incident happening again.
You can tell her both your roles in keeping the relationship strong and in that way, you are subtly telling her that she too has to have a hand in making things great for the both you, and not you alone.
Fourth, the first phase of your reunion would be a bit awkward at first, since you are still trying to make things work.
At this stage, be consistent with what you resolved to do.
If she sees that you are serious with your commitment in this relationship, then what follows would be a harmonious bond.
Do not duplicate the things you did in the past that led to your disassociation.
And fifth, trust your partner as you trust yourself.
Whenever she has an idea on something, hear it out, maybe play it out even.
You will never know the results until you see things through.
That way, everyone would feel that they matter in this relationship and would stay on.