Being good with women is a skill and a skill is something that can be learned, many years ago I used to go out each and every week getting dressed up and making sure I kept in great shape, every week I would pray a woman would notice me and accidentally start talking to me but it just didn't happen, every week on my walk home I would curse myself for not going up and talking to any girls, I could have said anything but I would always make excuses like "oh she probably has a boyfriend" or "I'll wait till she is alone", the truth is that there is never a good time to talk to a woman, there never will be and your excuses are your irrational fear of being rejected.

The problem I had was that I had always had girlfriends but when I got older something seemed to happen to me and I was no longer confident around women, I guess after so long I kind of forgot how to talk to them and it became a huge problem in my life, I was looking for a solution and that's when I turned to the pick up industry but the to tell you the truth I have a strange feeling that they could have told us to say anything and it would still have worked, most of what we needed to overcome our anxiety around women was to just get us started, it has to come from inside you which is why pick up as a long term strategy with women can never work.

Everyone tells you to be yourself and that's fine but what about if you know you are being a less confident version of you?

It's a strange place to be in when suddenly after all this time women are no longer scary to you and you realise you no longer have to say the perfect line or thing about what stage you are at in the players handbook, if you want to be good with women then you need to learn how to mould yourself into the best person you can be, no one else can teach you to be confident with women, all they can do is teach your external techniques such as pick up lines which may work but you won't be able to act like a PUA if you are in a long term relationship, eventually she will see your character which is why we must work on improving ourselves from the inside so we can actually be the man that we want to be.