If you have the chance to get back that love of your life and they seem interested as well, it is worth giving things a try. But, it is also important not to make the same mistakes twice.

Here are 5 things to do differently the second time around.

1.Be a little kinder: For his last words, the famous English novelist Aldous Huxley said in 1963 from his deathbed in Los Angeles, Let us be kinder to one another. This sage advice, spoken from the clarity of a brilliant mind on the verge of dying, applies to not only how we treat our brothers on the street but our romantic relationships, as well. If you are blessed enough to rekindle your past love, find ways to be a little bit more patient, kind and considerate. This will do wonders for the quality of your relationship.

2.Be aware of your own faults: Even if you consider yourself to be one of those perfect people who have no faults, I would wager that if you asked a trusted friend or family member they might be able to put their finger on one or two. If you do re-unite with your past love, always keep in mind your two biggest flaws. Remember, your flaws are what make you human, but your ability to bear them gracefully is what makes you loveable.

3.Get sexy: Do just one thing to make yourself a bit more attractive to your re-united partner. It could be trying a new scent or doing your hair differently. It might involve taking up a new hobby or interest. It could be committing to a light exercise program or learning to cook. Show your spontaneous, mysterious side and let your partner know just how interesting, sexy and fun you can be.

4.Read a book on relationships together: Your love is worth nurturing. As soon as you get back together, pick up the latest and greatest book on relationships and spend 15 minutes each night reading a few pages out loud together. This is a great excuse to spend time together, while at the same time you will be learning about how to push each others love buttons.

5.Deal with negative influences in your lives: Is there a particular family member, friend, co-worker or life situation that has exerted a negative influence on your lives in the past? When my husband and I first got married, we felt that certain members of both of our families were a bit controlling. We soon found ourselves fighting whenever we were headed to these peoples homes for a get together. Once we recognized the pattern, my husband and I sought counseling to find ways to deal with these negative influences. Now, whenever this situation arises we talk it out instead of letting it affect how we treat each other.

The opportunity to get back together with an ex-lover can be a blessing that not many people are afforded. If you do fall in love again with your ex, try these tips for increasing the chances for a happy and long-lasting relationship.