The Wedding Vows are the stuff movies are made of that everyone has seen.
The horror stories of forgotten vows and even the unprepared vow that signals the start of a rocky marriage.
We have all seen or heard of these moments.
With all of that being said, let's look at 5 Tips to make it run a bit smoother.
Tip 1 - The bride and groom need to have an understanding that the are not to intrude or judge the other partner's vows.
This is where it begins so each has an understanding that thy can create in a non-judgmental atmosphere.
Admittedly, this is geared more toward many men, but there needs to be a conscious effort to put the coupe at ease before going into the process.
Tip 2 - Meet with the person who is preparing the service for you from a ministerial standpoint.
There may be certain limitations when it comes to what can or must be included in the vows from a pastoral viewpoint.
i have seen some ministers refuse to allow vows if they had not met with the minister prior to the service.
Just remember your traditions.
Tip 3 - Set a Goal to have the vows done a week before the wedding.
There is nothing more disrespectful from a marriage standpoint than vows that sound as if they were thrown together at the last moment.
If you are conscious of that goal, it will force you to reflect a bit and not leave something so important to the last minute.
Tip 4 - Practice.
You would think this is a no-brainer, but I have seen vows that sounded like they were indeed an after thought.
Practice the way you phrase your words and even where you will breath.
If you are well practiced, even the nerves of the wedding day will stop you from reciting with heart.
Tip 5 - Have a Heart - and, yes, guys, this means you.
Take the time to reflect back everything your new spouse means to you and you will have the basis of writing your vows.
Have some emotion and give the words heart and soul.
The Wedding day is special but nothing is more important than the words you say to each other in front of God and everyone.
Make it worth the effort.