You want to get your girlfriend back, you want to make her love you again. The more that you think about what it's like to lose her, the more you feel the gnawing determination to get her to come back to you. The problem is, you are out of ideas, and you don't understand what it is that will change things and help you to get her love back. The more time that passes, the stronger the urge is to want to win her back.

Here are 3 tips to get her to want to come back to YOU:

1. First off, your girlfriend is not going to want you back if you appear to be distraught over the breakup.

You might make the assumption that by having your ex girlfriend see how torn up you are over breaking up with her, that this would pull at her heartstrings and make her feel like she should come back to you. Thing is, it usually ends up having the opposite effect and makes her feel an even stronger urge to break things off for good. If you are going to get her back, then you have to kind of hide that feeling of being distraught over breaking up with her.

2. Second, you need to be able to get the rest of your life handled so that you look like a real catch in her eyes.

You don't want to allow the breakup to make the rest of your life crumble apart. When this happens and you get caught up in a downward spiral, then the chances that your ex girlfriend is going to want to get back together are not all that good. See, women are attracted to guys that seem to be going places, guys that seem to have their life in order. Make her see that and you have a fighting chance to get your girlfriend back.

3. Third, you need to put together a plan to get your girlfriend back, one that you can act on right away.

Imagine that you were trying to put back together the engine on a car and you had no plan and you had never done this before. Would you expect to be really successful at getting it to work? Probably not. So why would you assume that you could win back your girlfriend without having a plan of action and one that you can act on right away.