Break ups are really hard on both people concerned.
Emotions are left totally raw, there is this terrible feeling of absolute confusion - do you or don't you still love each other, and above all, the desperation.
Rampant emotions, utter confusion, and frantic desperation can make you do things that will not make your ex want you back.
However, knowing what to do, and when to do it, can change things dramatically.
1.
The first way to make your ex want you back is to make your ex miss you.
This can only be achieved if your ex does not see you for a while.
So, stay right away from your ex - give him/her no opportunity to see you or speak to you.
2.
As soon as your friends discover that you are single again, they will make contact with you.
Even though you may not feel like it, go out with them - it all helps with the healing process.
This healing process is vital if you want to make your ex want you back.
3.
Do whatever it takes to get your emotions back on track - as long as you are feeling emotional, it will slow everything down.
Once your emotions have settled down, that confusion you feel will disappear, as will those awful feelings of desperation.
These are things that are all capable of making you do really stupid things that will not make your ex want you back.
4.
Use this time to figure out what problems you cause in the relationship, and what you are going to do to fix them.
You cannot solve the problems that were caused by your ex, but there are definitely things that you can do to right the wrongs you did, that played a part in the relationship coming to an end.
Once you know what you are going to do about your own problems, make a note of them.
When you and your ex DO get together for a talk, you will be able to tell your ex exactly what your intentions are.
Your willingness to fix your own mistakes could very well make your ex want you back.
5.
To really succeed and make your ex want you back, you need to show your ex that you can be independent, that you can enjoy life without him/her.
You can achieve this by doing just that - go out as much as you want to and enjoy your life.
Eventually, your ex will want to join in, and enjoy your life with you.