When you are going through a break-up, you are possibly thinking about what to do to get over your ex or how to win back your lost love. Generally, people will be in one of the two groups and both groups are in a difficult position with the exception of the few who speedily moves ahead without dwelling on past feelings and hoping for things to turn out differently. Before you start to act, examine though into your relationship with your ex. Look at how it was then and how it is now. Try to be as impartial as you are able to. You may come to the conclusion that the break-up was really the right choice.

If you have made up your mind to win back lost love then the first step is to ask for forgiveness. You may think that you completed this step. You may well have apologize quite a few times already but if the reason of your apology is to prevent the break-up, your ex may think that it was not genuine.

If you were the one at fault for doing something needing to ask for forgiveness, go ask for forgiveness again. Now that it is done properly, your ex will know that it is sincere. If the relationship has already broken up, your ex will know that you truly mean it and not just to save the relationship.

However, if your ex was the one who was at fault for doing something wrong, then forgive them instead of getting an honest apology from them. You may have a hard time forgiving particularly if the cause of the break-up was unfaithful acts but you need to learn to
forgive. Forgiving is more difficult for some to do than simply saying, "I forgive you". You may want to read some materials on forgiveness and how to actually mean it. This move will aid you to win back lost love. Further more, it will also keep away troubles in the future.

When you make up with your ex and win back lost love, past issues may resurface down the road after 3 or 6 or 9 months. You will have a difficult time getting past the whole thing if you haven't truly forgiven your ex for whatever they are responsible for causing the break-up. Previous wounds would be reopened and there is the likelihood that upsetting things will be uttered.

There will no need to mention the past if you had fully forgiven your ex. As you are making an effort on forgiving your ex for everything that had happened to cause the break up, forgive your ex for the break up itself. It will save you heaps of misery in the future.

In addition, to win back lost love, show to your ex the person that they once fell in love with before, not the person that they left. Both of you were together because you have positive attributes - compassion, consideration in comparison to the "you" now - irritating, angry or upset. You may be unable to conceal your pain but focus on bring out the best in you. You will win back lost love by reminding them why your ex loved you in the beginning.