When you find out that your spouse has had an affair the question you should be asking is: 'should we stay together after what my spouse did? Is it even possible for me to ever trust a cheater again?'

Statistics on the matter show that sixty-four percent of marriages today stay together after infidelity has entered the relationship. Statistics can't tell you what to do; you have to find that out for yourself. You have to confront your partner and tell them how you feel and take a decision based on that.

If you decide to stay together it is a commitment from both partners. Essentially it means that you are able to forgive the infidelity of your partner, or that you will be able to do so some time in the future.

If you don't feel like you will be able to do so then the relationship is not going to work and it might be time to part ways. There is no point in staying in a relationship just so you can punish your spouse as it will only hurt you and you will not be heal the wounds your spouse caused with their behavior. Do you think that you will be able to have a healthy relationship in the future? You have to sit down with your partner and figure out what you want.

If you have children with your spouse you have to base your decision on the effect it will have on them. If you think that you can restore a relationship that is healthy and caring then that will only benefit your children. Don't place your children in the middle of something that will harm them. Fighting parents can just harm the children in the long term and should not have to live with that kind of environment. Your kinds would rather be from a broken home than from a home where there is constant fighting, stress and unhappiness.

Children are affected by you arguing in front of them for the rest of their lives. They start to blame themselves and carrying a blame that is not theirs to carry. If you feel that the relationship is harming your children then it is time to reconsider if your relationship is worth it; your health and the wellbeing of your children.

There is also the possibility that a child was born from the infidelity of your spouse. If that is the case are you still willing to give the relationship a chance? Your partner would have to keep contact with the person who they had an affair with if they want to take on the responsibility of co-parenting. You will have to discuss this with your partner and find a solution both of you agree on. This can be done in a way that no contact is made without your involvement. This would mean that if there is contact to be made you would have to be present while your partner and the person they had an affair with meat along with their child.

Is that something you think you would be able to handle? If the answer is no you have to reconsider if you are prepared to stay in this relationship. What does your head tell you? This is a choice you have to make made on intellect and logic in what you want from life in the long run.